The first step into my own self care, was to accept that I needed to ask for help. I would try endlessly to fill everyone's emotional, spiritual, and physical needs basket, but left my own basket empty, thinking that I needed to take care of everyone else without also placing focus back to me. We as caregivers and mothers give our life and love to others, but what about giving love back to self and accepting the same help in return?
The first step toward my self care, was feeling empowered by asking for help, accepting the help, and taking care of my own needs first. Sadly, this did not happen until our family was hit hard by tragedy and major health concerns. It would have been easier if someone slipped me a note and wrote, "You need to take care of yourself because you are worth it". or "You will be able to help your family with their needs, if you take care of your own needs." However, I know that I would have read this note, accepted that was truth, but not have followed through with it. I am so stubborn, that I had to go through this to learn a life lesson that is still an ongoing practice and will be for the rest of my life. If I had not accepted help from others during our difficult times, or if I had not pushed through with being a strong advocate for my child, self, and family, I do not want to know where we would be right now.
You and I do not need to have gone through the exact same experiences to understand that we need to put priority on our own self worth and self care. We need to be our own advocate in order to be an advocate for those we care for and love. What I hope, by sharing what has worked for me, is that something resonates with you to begin your own work toward your own practice of self-care.
Christina Grossman, MA, CA, CH
Any and all information shared are for educational purposes only. This is not to substitute for medical advice, counseling, or advice on nutrition.
I am both a Mother and Caregiver, of course. Going through my child's treatment challenged me to not only help my child, my family, but to help myself through the trauma. This outlet is to share the things that helped me, even after treatment. Surviving is a choice and takes lots of love, patience, faith, and work.